It’s been a tough week in Nova Scotia. The news has been hard and sad. How do we respond when difficult things happen to members of our community?
My heart reaches out to the mother who lost her 19 year-old daughter, her extended family, friends and co-workers at Walmart. I am mindful of the impact on first responders who were called to the scene. We also extend our deepest sympathy to the RCMP officers, family members and friends who lost a colleague and loved one. First responders were also called to this troubling scene.
It’s natural to try to try to fill in the blanks, guessing at the details in an effort to understand what happened. It’s human nature.
Instead of judging, I want to lean in with compassion, knowing that extreme actions only come from deep places of hurt. As an organization we want to be sure that we are doing everything possible to provide a network of support for those who might be faltering or injured. If you or anyone you know needs a helping hand, please do not hesitate to reach out. We are only a phone call away. If we all lean in, we can be sure no-one gets left behind. Please know that a community stands behind you.
I invite you to make time to ground yourself in nature this weekend, soaking in the fall colours and beauty that surrounds us. Take a moment to breathe in the fresh fall air. Be liberal with your hugs and generous with understanding.
Our hearts united,
Belinda Seagram, Ph.D., R. Psych. Executive Director, Landing Strong
Anger is intoxicating. There’s no doubt about it. It’s powerful, and has the illusion of strength. People will often respond to us more quickly if we’re angry.
Anger can be a force to be reckoned with. The military recognizes this, teaching people to harness their anger as vehicles for mobilization during difficult moments.
“Don’t get sad, get mad”
The problem is, power gleaned through anger is power taken, not power earned.
Is it possible, I wonder, to have power without exerting our will over others?
Maybe what we are really talking about is leadership.
Certainly, there are many different styles of leadership. We are all familiar with dictatorships, where those in power exert their control over others. Failure to conform is associated with profound negative consequences. We are fearful of their anger. Think Stalin.
Charismatic leaders, on the other hand, rely on the leader’s charm and attraction to inspire devotion among followers. After meeting with Charismatic leaders, we are inspired to be of service. We leave feeling they are special. Televangelist Billy Graham is a famous example of this style of leadership.
Transformation leaders, on the other hand, inspire greatness. They instill valuable and positive change with a vision of developing followers into leaders. After meeting with these leaders, we feel special: confident and inspired to be more. Nelson Mandela is an example of such a leader.
I think we have all had times when we realized our anger had power. It’s a hard habit to break, particularly if we don’t feel safe.
Is this a time when transformational leadership might be an option for you? Maybe you are already practicing it. What does it look like in your life?
Warm regards,
Belinda Seagram, Ph.D., R. Psych. Founder, Landing Strong
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