I Always Wanted to Marry a Rockstar

I Always Wanted to Marry a Rockstar

 

I Always Wanted to Marry a Rockstar
Recently, my husband Joe Seagram and his Firefighter partner Dave O’Laughlin received the Life Saving Award from the Order of St. John.

During a tennis match last year, they rushed to assist a fellow player, Alan, who had suddenly collapsed on a nearby court due to cardiac arrest. They immediately began CPR and used an automated external defibrillator. After 20 minutes and five shocks, Al’s heart started beating again. 

The hospital staff later referred to Al as “the tennis miracle” because he made a complete recovery. They called Joe and Dave the Rockstars. 
 
But as meaningful as that recognition was, it wasn’t the most important lesson from the evening. 

At the reception, another award recipient shared his story. Despite 40 minutes of CPR, and without access to a defibrillator, the individual he tried to save did not survive. He admitted feeling uncomfortable accepting an award when the outcome had been so tragic. 

His reaction struck a chord with me because I have heard similar sentiments from many first responders. They carry the weight of outcomes. They replay events in their minds. They wonder what they could have done differently. They feel responsible for losses that were never theirs to control. 

A representative from St. John gently challenged that thinking. The purpose of the award, she explained, is not to recognize successful outcomes. It is to recognize action. It is about people stepping forward, using their skills, and giving another human being every possible chance. 

That conversation stayed with us as we gathered for dinner with Al’s family afterward. We talked about the reality that first responders routinely answer calls where the ending is not the one anyone hoped for. Yet what many first responders may not fully appreciate is that their impact extends far beyond the patient. 

For families, knowing that someone stepped forward matters. Knowing that someone used every skill they had, stayed present in the chaos, and fought for their loved one brings comfort that lasts long after the event itself. Whether the person survives or not, families remember those efforts. 

Al’s wife refers to Joe and Dave as extended family. Another first responder shared that the family connected to a rescue attempt had invited him to reunions over the years. These stories remind us that success is not always measured by survival. 

Sometimes the greatest gift first responders give is not a life saved, but the certainty that their loved one did not face their worst moment alone. 

Trauma has a way of binding people together. So do acts of courage, compassion, and service. At Landing Strong, we see this every day. Together we regroup, heal, and find our new way forward. 

Perhaps that’s what being a Rockstar really means.

 

Warmly,

 

Belinda Seagram, Ph.D., R. Psych.
Executive Director, Landing Strong

A Moment to Reflect, A Community to Celebrate

A Moment to Reflect, A Community to Celebrate

 

A Moment to Reflect, A Community to Celebrate

Last Friday was a special day at Landing Strong as we gathered for our Annual Community Celebration and Artisanal Fair at Walker’s Restaurant in Windsor.

In the midst of our busy lives and important work, it can be easy to keep looking ahead to the next goal, the next project, or the next challenge. But there is tremendous value in taking a moment to pause, reflect, and appreciate the view.

Over the past year, our community has continued to grow in remarkable ways. Together, we have created opportunities, built meaningful connections, supported one another through challenges, and celebrated successes both big and small.

When I look back on the year, I am filled with pride; not only in what we have accomplished as an organization, but in the strength, resilience, and generosity of our members.  Some of our greatest achievements cannot be measured by numbers alone. They are found in the relationships formed, the confidence gained, the goals reached, and the moments of belonging experienced throughout our community. These peak experiences remind us why our work matters.

The collective contribution of the Landing Strong community is truly staggering. Every member, volunteer, partner, and supporter plays a role in creating positive change, and last Friday, we celebrated that shared impact.

Thank you to our artisans, musical performers, staff, board members and of course, Landing Strong community members for being a part of it.

A special thanks to our funders from DND, Office of Addictions and Mental Health, MHFNS, VAC, HICC and Dollar-A-Day Foundation for making this all possible.   

As we pause to appreciate the view, I encourage everyone to take a moment to reflect back on the journey, appreciate how far we have come, and celebrate all that we have accomplished together.

 

Warmly,

 

Belinda Seagram, Ph.D., R. Psych.
Executive Director, Landing Strong

There’s Beauty Just Around the Corner

There’s Beauty Just Around the Corner

 

There’s Beauty Just Around the Corner

There’s beauty just around the corner. Sometimes quite literally.

We live in a world that is deeply connected. The pace can feel relentless. Notifications buzz, inboxes fill, calendars overflow, and before we know it, our days can become more about reacting than truly living. Lately, I’ve been feeling an intentional pull to push back against that rhythm.

This month, I am creating more opportunities for pause. I am resisting the urge to turn on my computer or check emails on weekends. Instead, I am choosing to slow down and allow the beauty around me to fully pervade my senses. I’m exploring nature, wandering through surrounding communities, and making room for unplanned moments.

During a recent weekend’s wandering through Wolfville and Yarmouth, I was struck by the murals tucked around street corners and quiet spaces. Bright colours, thoughtful artistry, and stories painted onto brick walls reminded me that beauty often waits patiently for us to notice it. Not in grand gestures, but in everyday places we rush past too quickly.

I also noticed something else: when I slowed down, I became more open. More chatty. More willing to linger in conversation with people who were strangers only moments before. Those happenstance connections felt grounding and deeply human. I am embracing a slower movement; one that values presence over productivity and curiosity over urgency.

Perhaps this is your invitation, too: to slow down, turn the corner, and notice the beauty that has been waiting for you all along.

 

Warmly,

 

Belinda Seagram, Ph.D., R. Psych.
Executive Director, Landing Strong

Small Acts, Big Victories

Small Acts, Big Victories

 

Small Acts, Big Victories

 This past Monday, six enthusiastic participants from Landing Strong’s Community Connections program gathered for a community clean-up day. The weather could not have been more inviting, and neither could the spirit of those who arrived eager to make a positive difference in our local community.

At first glance, picking up litter may seem like a small act. Yet for many of our participants, opportunities to contribute carry a much deeper significance. Recovery is not simply about reducing symptoms or managing challenges. It is about rebuilding identity, rediscovering purpose, and carving out a new sense of who we can be beyond the uniform.

One of our veteran volunteers reflected on the experience:
“I woke up that morning feeling excited for the first time in a long time. In the past, responsibilities often brought anxiety and fear. But this time was different. I was looking forward to getting together with like-minded people and doing something productive. It may seem small, but it was a massive win for me. It has been a very long time since I have looked forward to anything. I feel like I’m getting my feelings back.”

The desire to contribute is a fundamental human need. It allows us to feel connected to something larger than ourselves and reminds us that we still have value, purpose, and gifts to offer.

This week, our community became a little cleaner. More importantly, six individuals took another step forward, defined not only by healing, but by contribution, connection, and a renewed sense of possibility.

I feel proud to count myself as a member of the team.

 

Warmly,

 

Belinda Seagram, Ph.D., R. Psych.
Executive Director, Landing Strong

Some Gold Is Worth Looking For

Some Gold Is Worth Looking For

 

Some Gold Is Worth Looking For

I recently had the privilege of facilitating a five-day Veterans Couples Retreat in Kingston, Ontario. Since then, I’ve been reflecting deeply on the courage it takes to choose connection when disconnection might feel safer.

We know trauma doesn’t only affect the serving member. Its impact ripples through families, relationships, and homes. Partners often carry invisible burdens of uncertainty, loneliness, and emotional exhaustion alongside the ones they love. When conversations become difficult, avoidance can feel like the easier path. Yet we also know that avoiding pain rarely protects us from it. More often, it prolongs injury and slowly destabilizes relationships that were once grounded in love, trust, and hope.

Throughout the week, I witnessed four couples doing the brave work of reclaiming their gold: the strengths, values, and qualities that first drew them together. By leaning into vulnerability with honesty and courage, they opened themselves to the possibility of healing, growth, and renewed connection.

Recovery is not about pretending the storms never happened. It is about learning that even after the darkest clouds, light can still break through.

On our final evening together in the restaurant, I looked out the window to see the skies parting. Dark clouds gave way to sunshine and a rainbow stretched across the water. It felt like a powerful metaphor for the work these couples had undertaken all week; proof that when people are willing to do the hard work of recovery, hope has room to return.

Some gold truly is worth looking for.

 

Warmly,

 

Belinda Seagram, Ph.D., R. Psych.
Executive Director, Landing Strong

The Passions That Shape Us

The Passions That Shape Us

 

The Passions That Shape Us

Last week, we proudly showcased the incredible work of our Homeless Prevention Team; a group of compassionate, determined people who pour their hearts into helping others find stability and hope. Notably absent from the team photo, however, was Charlotte Hayes, the Project Lead.

Charlie had a rather magical reason for missing the picture.  While we were celebrating the team’s achievements, Charlie was stepping into the spotlight as the star of Rodgers and Hammerstein’s Cinderella, presented by Stage Prophet’s.  And what a performance it was.

Charlie absolutely glowed as the Belle of the ball, sweeping the audience into a world of magic, music, and possibility. I knew she was a talented dancer, but I had no idea she also possessed such remarkable gifts as an actor and singer.

Watching her command the stage, it was hard to imagine how she found the time to master so much choreography and learn so many lines alongside the meaningful work she does every day.

The standing ovation the cast received was a testament to just how successfully they transported us into another kingdom for the evening. We attended proudly as Charlie’s fan club, and as we watched her shine, I couldn’t help reflecting on something important: every person in our group photo has passions outside of work that help shape who they are.

Olivia is an avid reader. Jenny is a knitter. Miranda is a competitive Latin dancer and gifted singer-songwriter. Deb, also an avid reader, is endlessly creative. Catharine is a yoga enthusiast and trained instructor. And personally, I spend my spare time writing and doing art.

There is wisdom in nurturing these passions because, although our work brings us purpose and joy, we must be more than the uniform or the role we perform each day.

So, what passion projects are igniting you? In what ways are you continuing to learn, grow, and discover new parts of yourself? How are you daring to believe in yourself?

If you are looking for inspiration or feel ready to showcase your talent, please contact Pam. pturcotte@landingstrong.com

Invitations for our Landing Strong Recognition Celebration and meal have been sent. RSVP to by Wednesday June 3rd, with any dietary restrictions, and so we have accurate numbers for the meal. 

For the public, please join us at the artisanal fair:
Friday June 12th2pm-5pm
Walker’s Restaurant 88 Gerrish St. Windsor NS.  

 

Warmly,

 

Belinda Seagram, Ph.D., R. Psych.
Executive Director, Landing Strong

A Place To Feel Safe

A Place To Feel Safe

Photo L to R: Miranda, Catharine, Jen missing Charlie & Stephanie

A Place To Feel Safe

I’d like to take a moment to shine a light on an extraordinary group of people here at Landing Strong. Our Homelessness Prevention Team members: Charlie, Jen, Stephanie, Catharine, and Miranda.

This team is truly a tour de force. Every day, they advocate for veterans and first responders with a level of care and commitment that goes far beyond simply finding housing.
Their work is about creating spaces where people feel safe, where stability can begin again.

Through wraparound supports, they help address the complex realities of financial strain, food insecurity, and housing challenges, meeting people where they are and walking alongside them toward something better.

Recently, a story came across my desk that perfectly captures the heart of this work. One of our board members, Mark Larkin, reached out with a generous offer to donate medical equipment and a mattress. We connected him with the team, and what followed was something special. The medical equipment went to a deeply grateful first responder. Mark then personally delivered the mattress to a veteran living two hours away. He then went a step further, donating an entire bedroom suite to go with it.

What Mark may not have fully seen was the ripple effect of that kindness. We later heard from a family member of the veteran, who lives nearby. They shared that since moving into his new apartment, their loved one had been leaving his bedroom light on… all night, every night. But after the bedroom suite arrived, complete with beautiful bedding, for the first time, he turned the light off. And it has gone off each night since.

A small detail, perhaps. But not really. To me, it speaks volumes about safety, comfort, and the quiet return of peace. It’s a reminder that this work changes more than circumstances; it changes how people feel in their own space, and how families rest knowing their loved one is okay.

So, thank you to Mark, and to this incredible team. Because of you, someone is sleeping better tonight. And so is their family.

And thank you to the funders of this project: Housing, Infrastructure and Communities Canada (HICC), Dollar A Day Foundation, the Mental Health Foundation of Nova Scotia (MHFNS) and Veterans Affairs Canada. Your continued support ensures no one is left in the cold.

 

Warmly,

 

Belinda Seagram, Ph.D., R. Psych.
Executive Director, Landing Strong

Leaning In To What Feels Good

Leaning In To What Feels Good

 

Leaning In To What Feels Good

I was looking over the participant list for our Creating Confidence & Clarifying Strengths program recently when something caught my attention; two familiar names on the participant list. Both had taken the program before. It’s not unusual, but it does seem to be happening more often lately. Curious, I mentioned it to Laslo who was nearby and had just finished leading the Trauma and Resiliency Program. He laughed loudly and said, “Good shows are worth repeating.”

That stayed with me.

It made me think about how often I return to my favourite movies. There’s something comforting and even enriching about revisiting a story I already know. Sometimes I notice new details I missed before. Other times, it’s simply the pleasure of experiencing something I know will leave me feeling good. That predictability isn’t boring; it’s grounding.

I’m beginning to see this same principle reflected in the choices our participants are making. Coming back to a program like this isn’t about needing to “fix” something again, it’s about reinforcing what works. It’s about intentionally revisiting practices that build confidence, clarify strengths, and support well-being.

There’s something powerful in that.

In a world that often pushes us toward constant novelty, maybe there’s wisdom in returning to what we know is good for us. Repetition, when it’s meaningful, isn’t stagnation, it’s growth with depth.

I find myself wanting to lean into this more. To be more intentional about revisiting the habits, conversations, and experiences that I know make a difference. Our participants are setting that example beautifully. And I’m being intentional to follow the example of our participants.

 

Warmly,

 

Belinda Seagram, Ph.D., R. Psych.
Executive Director, Landing Strong

The Little Habits that Shape Our Days

The Little Habits that Shape Our Days

 

The Little Habits that Shape Our Days

I’m happy to report that my dog Finn is no longer scared of me. But that’s not to say Joe isn’t still his main man. Anywhere Joe goes, Finn goes…even for an early morning shower. Like clockwork, Finn lines up at the door waiting for Joe to open it so he can run in and have his shower first. As easily as that, habits are formed. I may end up with the cleanest dog in the world.

As we move into May, it might be a good time to pause and reflect on the patterns we’ve created. Which habits are nourishing your health and well-being? Which habits might be quietly working against you?

In our Healthy Living program, we’ll be taking a closer look at this, but you don’t need to be part of a program to start paying attention. Sometimes it’s about small, gentle tweaks: drinking a little more water, incorporating a bit more movement, or even stillness, into a busy day.

Like Finn and his shower routine, habits don’t need to be complicated to stick. The key is consistency and awareness.

So maybe this month is your invitation to step back, take stock, and decide what’s worth keeping…and what might be ready for a shift.

 

Warmly,

 

Belinda Seagram, Ph.D., R. Psych.
Executive Director, Landing Strong

A Side of Tom Cruise

A Side of Tom Cruise

 

A Side of Tom Cruise

Last weekend, I wandered through the Wolfville Farmers Market with a simple mission: to find something delicious. It was well past lunchtime, and I was ready for something satisfying; earned after a busy week.

So, you can imagine my surprise when I spotted a sign advertising a chicken gyro wrap: free-range chicken, tzatziki… and a side of Tom Cruise.

I paused. Blinked. Read it again.

Now, I had questions. Was this clever marketing? A joke? Or had I stumbled upon the most creative culinary experience in Nova Scotia? I found myself smiling, already delighted, not by the food, but by the imagination behind it. Whoever created this sign, I thought, must have a wonderfully playful inner world.

Curiosity won. I stepped forward and asked.

The answer? “Not Tom Cruise”, the booth owner explained, “just tomatoes and cucumbers”.

I laughed, out loud, the kind that catches you off guard and comes out louder than expected.

And just like that, a small, ordinary moment became something more.

This is what happens when we’re open to glimmers. According to Deb Dana, they’re micro-moments of joy, safety, or connection. They don’t demand attention; they invite it.

I didn’t leave with a celebrity on the side of my wrap. But I did leave with something better: a lightness, a laugh, and a reminder that sometimes joy shows up when we’re simply willing to notice it.

 

Warmly,

 

Belinda Seagram, Ph.D., R. Psych.
Executive Director, Landing Strong