I recently watched a charming movie on Netflix called A map of tiny perfect things. A young couple, caught in their own personal ground hog day, struggle to find meaning when every day seems a repetition of the previous one. Somewhat like waking up each morning to hear the COVID report. They hatch an ingenious scheme to devote themselves to finding tiny perfect moments that exist within the fabric of each day.
I love this idea. Instead of focussing on things that can’t be controlled, I want to form my own list of tiny perfect moments. It’s easy to miss them. Sometimes we have to look very closely to see.
I’ll share one from yesterday. A young man in his late teens is at the Big Stop struggling to get his debit card working. He’s filled his gas tank, but can’t pay for it because his card won’t work. The cashier mentions that she is supposed to call the RCMP in such a circumstance. Immediately a woman in line steps up and says “don’t do that, how much is the bill? I’ll get it for him”.
Embarrassed that I didn’t think of it, I offer to cover half. Turns out the bill is only $20.
That could be the end of the story, but it isn’t. As I am pulling out of the station I see the young man waving his arms and running after me. He explains that he got his card working and wanted to give me back the $10 I had chipped in, insisting that I take it. He was articulate, thoughtful and appreciative.
What a beautiful tiny perfect moment to start this week’s collection.
In group we have the opportunity to witness many tiny perfect moments. Moments when people listen to one another without judgement. Notes of support that are offered after a difficult share. Celebratory cheers when there has been an accomplishment. Or simple quite head nots of understanding when a group member shares something they are struggling with.
There are still two seats left in our Healthy Living Group starting next week. It’s a chance to ensure the life you are living reflects the person you want to be. Give us a call today if you’d like to join.
Belinda Seagram, Ph.D., R. Psych.
Executive Director, Landing Strong