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“I’m tired of feeling bad about myself.  How can I learn to feel better?”

It’s a great question, and is likely a challenge that has faced us all at some point in our lives.

Personally, I think low self-esteem is the result of high expectations.

We’re all good at some things, and not so good at others.

Low self-esteem happens when we think we should be good at everything.

Those of you who struggle with addictions likely can relate.  Addictions aren’t the result of expecting too little.  It’s usually about expecting too much and feeling frustrated with ourselves when we don’t measure up.

So my word for the week is compassion.  

Are you able to take a moment to appreciate those things you do well?

Try practicing compassion with yourself in those areas that you’re not strong at.  No one gets better when they are being yelled at.  Our inner critic can have the loudest and most disabling voice of all.  

You may know that you love deeply, and care deeply, but not actually know how to communicate that to others.  Instead of focussing on those things we can’t do, and feeling badly, I encourage you to notice your areas of strength, building on them so you have the confidence to work on those things that are still “in development.”

Warmly, 

Belinda Seagram, Ph.D., R. Psych.
Executive Director, Landing Strong

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