Reclaiming our place within community

Reclaiming our place within community

Reclaiming our place within community

Often following injury, we withdraw. Over time, this becomes the norm, not the exception. Even the thought of entering busy crowded places can become overwhelming. We forget that often the reason these places are so busy is because they are generally where people are having fun. Itā€™s not a threat, but a place of joy.

I was sitting in a restaurant, and there was a very happy large table of people beside me. It was clear that they were a group of friends having a great time midweek. I was delighted to recognize one of our Landing Strong Members among them. This person later shared that this is not something they would have been doing last year. Now it is a regular highlight of their week.

ā€œI wouldnā€™t never have been able to be in a big group like that before doing group programs with Landing Strong.ā€

Participating in programs is an important step in recovering joy.

It allows us to gain comfort sharing and being seen by others.

Warm thoughts,

Belinda Seagram, Ph.D., R. Psych.
Executive Director, Landing Strong

Making space for reflection

Making space for reflection

Making space for reflection

As I look forward to taking a week-long vacation later this month, I am reminded of the importance of pacing in any of the work we do. Recovery may be a full time job, but like any job, itā€™s necessary to take breaks. The trick is knowing when we need to rest and for how long, mindful that it doesnā€™t turn into avoidance. One of the most important things about vacation is that it allows us time to return and see things from a fresh perspective. Meaningful changes happen when we allow ourselves the time and space for reflection.

Where do I hope to be in five years?

What about this time next year?

How do I want to feel?

What is my recovery mission?

All you have to know is the desired destination. Weā€™ll help you with the journey.

We are offering a number of programs leading up to the summer:

  • Our monthlyĀ Maintaining HealthĀ program is this coming Friday (not our usual Thursday).
  • We still have spots inĀ Overcoming Trauma: Your Past is not your future, starting later this month.

Give us a call so we can help you get to where you want to be.

Warm thoughts,

Belinda Seagram, Ph.D., R. Psych.
Executive Director, Landing Strong

Change is just around the corner

Change is just around the corner

Change is just around the corner

Weā€™ve all got ā€˜em, the ā€œStill winter bluesā€. It’s not a coincidence that people tend to flock towards sunny destinations this time of year. We’re all hungry for a shot of vitamin D.

Iā€™ll be honest. This morning, I woke up on the wrong side of the bed and trudged to work like a grumpy bear. I wracked my brain trying to pinpoint the cause. My first client was also making his way out of hibernation. As I heard him speak of the effect of the winter weather on his mood, it clicked. My mood also was being affected by limited sunshine and the weather. This realization instantly made me feel better. Hearing his words prompted my mood to shift. Iā€™ve been cheerful and uplifted since.

With a little support and connection, meaningful change can happen quicker than you think.

The forecast is still calling for snow, but I know it wonā€™t weigh me down anymore and there are many positives just around the corner.

Jump start your spring, and sign up now for one of our many upcoming groups:

Date Night (final of the series) all are welcome – March 9th

Maintaining Health – March 17th

Overcoming Trauma and building Resiliency – Friday group: March 24, 31 & April 14, 21, 28; Wednesday group: March 29, April 5, 12, 26, May 3

Warm thoughts,

Belinda Seagram, Ph.D., R. Psych.
Executive Director, Landing Strong

Striving to be more

Striving to be more

Striving to be more

Itā€™s easy to define ourselves in terms of our work.

Pushing hard, staying within a single lane, the temptation is strong to lose sight of the rich scenery and possibilities around us.

Last night my husband Joe came home beaming. Heā€™d had a great night of hockey, stating that it may have been ā€œhis best game everā€. The night before that, he spoke excitedly about having had a great evening of tennis. Tonight he has a bit part as an Oompa Loompa in The KES Junior schoolā€™s rendition of Willy Wonka and the Chocolate Factory. Joe seems to have mastered the talent of being many things. Iā€™ve always been grateful that, come a zombie apocalypse, heā€™s on my team. At some deep level, he’s understood the importance of staying engaged in many diverse aspects of life, not simply driving in a single lane.

Getting and staying healthy is about diversifying our investments, not putting all of our eggs in one basket. Iā€™m particularly aware of that as I approach the latter half of my life. Over the past year Iā€™ve worked hard to deepen my interests, explore new hobbies, and challenge myself to discover things that might intimidate me. At the end of my life, I doubt Iā€™ll be asking myself if I worked enough. Rather, I expect Iā€™ll look to relationships, hoping I have been authentic, honest and trustworthy. Both inside and outside of my work, I never want to stop striving to be more.

Warm thoughts,

Belinda Seagram, Ph.D., R. Psych.
Executive Director, Landing Strong

The pile of paperwork sitting in the corner

The pile of paperwork sitting in the corner

The pile of paperwork sitting in the corner

Itā€™s there, staring at me. I know you get it. We all have such piles.

Our heap of ā€œto dosā€ that weā€™ve not yet had the chance to get to.

Hereā€™s the interesting thing. The more anxious I become about it, the less likely I am to actually do it. The anxiety associated with the task takes on a life of its own.

When we avoid small things, they start to feel very big. If we can bring ourselves to respond to them in the moment, we take away their power. It may involve asking for help from others or leaning into challenging emotions. It doesnā€™t have to become a big weight to carry.

Feeling anxious about things doesnā€™t change them.

Leaning into them does.

Iā€™m dedicated to spending the next few days leaning into my areas of discomfort: taking a look at my piles and developing a strategy to address them. I want my exterior and interior worlds to be aligned.

I donā€™t have to do it all. Just bite size pieces over the next week.

Perhaps you have a similar corner that youā€™d like to work on.

Join me.

Warm thoughts,

Belinda Seagram, Ph.D., R. Psych.
Executive Director, Landing Strong

I am the work

I am the work

I am the work

People often speak about the discomfort they experience having to leave their jobs following injury. Theyā€™re eager to push through their symptoms, trying to get back to work as quickly as possible. The interesting thing is, pushing to speed up recovery often has the inadvertent consequence of slowing it down.

When it comes to recovery, you have to go slowly in order to progress quickly.

What does this mean?

Recovery isnā€™t a vacation as others might think. We all know itā€™s a period of time requiring intentional work.

Instead of asking yourself the question ā€œWhen can I go back to work?ā€ It might be more helpful to consider the following statements:

I am the work.
There is no other work.
Recovery is my mission.

Processing traumatic events is a part of being a first responder. If you donā€™t do it while youā€™re operational, youā€™ll likely be forced to take time off to deal with it later. Itā€™s like putting off paperwork. It never actually goes away.

The skill of emotional processing is a necessary component of health but is something that is not often awarded the time and space it needs.

This my friends, is the work.

Warm regards,

Belinda Seagram, Ph.D., R. Psych.
Executive Director, Landing Strong