Many people Iâve talked to recently complain about the challenge of feeling unmotivated.  It seems theyâre working twice as hard as usual, less than usual, or having to balance a full work load while co-habitating an overcrowded house. The consistent theme is that they donât feel motivated.Â
I often think of my working life as blocks of concentrated energy punctuated by tantalizing rewards.  Donât get me wrong, I love what I do, but I love it even more when I know there is a vacation coming, or a family outing.  Or even a simple night out with friends at the movies or local pub. Â
The strange thing about time recently is that many days feel the same.  Excitement consists of the sun coming out, or having time to work the garden in the evening.  Such is life.
Today I noticed a few businesses starting to open their doors.  It felt like spring was finally here.  Perhaps weâll all catch that forward momentum as we look ahead.
If youâre looking to boost your energy and motivation, check out our new on-line course starting next Friday:  Mind/Body Health and Recovery.  A holistic look at getting better. Each day, weâll spend time checking in with each person to see how theyâre doing, and do some fun exercises with Dr. Adrienne Wood to learn how making a few simple changes can have a profound impact on health. Sleep better, look betterâŠfeel better.  Iâm in.
Now thatâs something to look forward to.  Hope to see you there!  We still have few seats left.
This week I looked out the window and noticed a flurry of tiny snowflakes making their way down from the skies. Weather forecasters were calling for a large storm, and I knew that was going to make for a complicated day at the office.
âSmall flakes big snowâ one of the clients mentioned on their way out, âget your snow shovels ready!â
Iâve heard that expression before, and wondered about its origins. Is there some ancient wisdom Iâm unaware of that would allow me to be able to better predict my day simply by looking at the size of snowflakes? A few minutes of google research later, I realize itâs not quite so simple. Warmer temperatures lead to higher water content, and thus larger flakes. Colder atmospheric temperature forms smaller flakes because there isnât as much sticky stuff to hold the flakes together. So in a way Itâs true: if itâs warm outside it isnât likely to stay snowy for longâŠit might turn to slushy wet stuff or rain. Small snowflakes and lower temperatures are a sign that whatever falls is likely to hang around for longer.
It strikes me that change is a bit like the snow. If we try to do too much too soon (large flakes) it isnât likely to be lasting. Small repeated steps in the right direction, however, accumulate over time and can lead to a mountain of change. If we turn the heat up on ourselves too quickly, itâs not sustainable. If I want to take up running, for example, and start by trying to run 5 km at once, itâs likely too much. Sure I did it some years ago, but that doesnât mean my body will recognize that movement now. A series of small steps, building up over time will increase my stamina so that Iâm better equipped to do the run. Maybe a better goal is to start walking 10,000 steps a day instead. If I want any positive change to be lasting, easing in with gradual small changes is the way to go.
Keeping in line with our New Year commitment to self-compassion, I will embrace my inner (running) warrior, and enjoy pleasant walks through the snow this winter. Enjoying each small flake as it accumulates into something bigger. Maybe you will too?
Warm wishes,
Belinda Seagram, Ph.D., R. Psych. Executive Director, Landing Strong
The Holidays can be a difficult time for many, with increased expectations around social engagements, drinking, crowds and overindulgences. What if we simply focus on what the holiday spirit truly means. No matter what our spiritual beliefs may be, itâs a time when people come together to celebrate, offer support to one another, and reflect on the passing year.
Itâs undeniably a time of year where shopping, preparing elaborate meals, and commercialism seemingly take over. Itâs also true that almost half of all charitable donations made by Canadians happen in the last two months of the year. This suggests that despite the stress associated with the season, itâs a time when people are thinking of those who face more challenging circumstances.
In the midst of one of the busiest times of the year, we are able to set aside our differences and recognize our shared humanity. When people are spending the most and perhaps are feeling the stress of their financial state, they recognize that this discomfort isnât temporary for many. When they are surrounded by those they love, thoughts turn to those who may not be as fortunate.
We hope youâre able to take some time over the holidays to reflect on all the small things that are meaningful to you in your life. We are grateful for our connection with you, our sense of shared purpose as we support those who are injured, and our appreciation for those who continue to put themselves in harmâs way so we may be safe.
Warmest wishes for a safe and happy holiday season,
Belinda Seagram, Ph.D., R. Psych. Executive Director, Landing Strong
This week, I met someone new.  Letâs call her âRay of Sunshineâ.  She sparkled so brightly I was almost blinded by the bling that adorned her arms and fingers.  Fluorescent pink eye shadow and a matching headband complemented her brightly flowered shirt. Â
âThanks Girlfriendâ she sung out to me happily as she rang up my purchase. Â
âGreat outfitâ I offered smilingÂ
âI gotta whole cupboard âa bright flowered shirts to choose fromâ she chimed in,  âMakes me happyâ.
Now thatâs a woman with intention, I thought with admiration as I left the store.  It felt good that this happy stranger had referred to me as âgirlfriendâ, randomly deciding that kindness was to be her default greeting.  Everything about her told me that before she had even started her day, sheâd decided it was going to be a good one.  What would happen If I started each day with the same degree of intention?
Something to ponder as I search my makeup drawer for baby blue eyeshadow and a matching sparkle shirt. đ  Warm regards,Â
Belinda Seagram, Ph.D., R. Psych. Executive Director, Landing Strong
“Helping people overcome their demons is not the same as helping people live well” – Martin Seligman
What does it mean to live well? Is it to be rich? Is it to be loved? Is it to live a life of purpose?
Many of you have chosen a life of service because at a deep level, you understand that personal fulfillment is connected to the notion of contribution. Being of service is valued. Through meaningful connection to one another, our lives have purpose. When we take off the uniform, it can be hard to know who we are.
Chances are, who you are was determined long before you put on the uniform. As a kid, you were probably the one who offered to help out. In social situations, you likely notice who is in need and are quick to offer assistance.
Who you are is not defined by the clothes you wear, rather, itâs who you are inside: who youâve always been.
Sometimes, when weâre injured, itâs easy to lose sight of that old self. Itâs still there. Itâs always been there. Just waiting to re-emerge when you are ready.
Warm regards,
Belinda Seagram, Ph.D., R. Psych. Executive Director, Landing Strong
As is the case with any vacation, my goal is to relax and recharge, allowing me to give my full attention and energy to the things I care about once I return home.
How do I do this?
For the next seven days, Iâll be back-country canoe tripping through Killarney Provincial Park, one of Ontarioâs most pristine and spectacular wilderness preserves. Itâs inevitable that at times Iâll be uncomfortable: fending off bugs, carrying heavy backpacks over long portages, or sleeping on bumpy ground. Joe, Kyle and Mackenzie are psyched about eating porridge every morningâŠme not so much so.
I know from past experience though, that itâll be well worth it. I can relax by doing less, or challenge myself by doing more. Generally speaking, the most important aspects of self-care that I practice involve expending energy. It may involve camping, doing art, reading, writing or walking in nature. Some part of me is generally in motion. Sometimes I do it well, sometimes not.
We often think of relaxation as being a passive activity: slowing down, watching Netflix, and giving ourselves permission to do less. Sometimes this is true, but if it becomes a pattern, itâs no longer relaxation. It becomes a pattern of existing.
So this week Iâll expend some energy to get out of my head, and into nature and connection with people I love.
I know some of you are off doing the same â playing music, camping, fishing and surfing.
If your old interests arenât serving as a source of inspiration anymore, it might be time to try something new. As we change, so do our needs. Thatâs why weâre introducing âCommunity Connectionâ days into our programming at Landing Strong. Open to anyone who is on the path of recovery and has participated in one of our workshops, these days will offer a chance to get together in a fun and restorative way. Weâll start advertising them in the next few weeks.
If you havenât participated in any of our programs yet, consider signing up for one this fall. We are always welcoming new community members.
Warmly,
Belinda Seagram, Ph.D., R. Psych. Founder, Landing Strong
